Shake on it
Published Jun 14, 2007For a few decades, it was pretty easy to meet and greet a neighbor or two, whether it was a friendly wave at sunrise while grabbing the newspaper off the driveway or swapping stories with the couple next door in the backyard as dusk crept over the houses on the block; we might have commiserated about bad weather and good kids, or vice versa.
Things are different these days, since my husband and I now live in a vertical neighborhood and we’ve traded the split rail fence for the speedy elevator. We’ve noticed that many folks prefer a measure of anonymity—just a nod and perhaps a terse “hello”—while others retain that neighborly demeanor and are quick to engage in polite conversation.
It reminds me of the way we interface with the people around us during Mass when the priest or deacon invites us to offer a sign of peace to one another. The kiss of peace, according to a Web
site sponsored by the Passionist Missionaries, was a custom described by St. Augustine in the 4th century, who wrote: “After the Lord’s Prayer, say ‘Peace be with you.’ Christians then embrace one another with a holy kiss. This is the sign of peace.” In the Middle Ages the laity were excluded from the ritual and the celebrant simply kissed the altar. After Vatican II, the rite of peace was restored.
Some people are very enthusiastic about participating in this exchange and relish the opportunity to extend a hand and a warm wish for peace; others grudgingly go through the motions and now and then individuals will opt to stare straight ahead and ignore the ritual.
Nevertheless, even from a perfect stranger, a word of encouragement where peace is concerned—especially in a world riddled with disharmony and threats of violence—is most welcome. In order to put ourselves in a state of mind that will carry over into the week as we face obstacles and overcome hurdles at home, school, work, with neighbors and more, a reassuring smile and a wish for a heart filled with peace before we are privileged to receive the Eucharist is a fine thing.
